Matthew Painton

Deep Adaptation Coaching
Certified Co-Active Coach, Facilitator Work That Reconnects

Languages

English

Where

Online

Types of Methods

• Nature Connection Practices
• Meditation - Spiritual Guidance
• Coaching - Transformation - Philosophy

Working with

• One to one, personal
• Groups, teams and organisations


Brighton, UK

I specialise in coaching people in the Deep Adaptation network who are suffering with ‘bigger-than-self distress’…

  • People who are no longer certain about what is real, or true, or who or what to believe
  • People who do not know what to aim towards or do for the best.
  • People who are feeling overwhelmed and fear to lift the lid on their feelings.
  • People who cannot talk to their nearest and dearest, let alone their colleagues for fear of upsetting them.
  • People who are highly constrained by the need to earn a living in business as usual.

This coaching ‘niche’ chose me because in 2017 I suffered a breakdown, as the reality of our global predicament overwhelmed me. Since then, I have learned how to process and metabolise my reality distress towards collapse-acceptance, and have worked with dozens of coaches, therapists and facilitators and hundreds of people in the Deep Adaptation network to develop the skills, practices and processes to transmute bigger-than-self distress into acceptance and ‘more-than-me enlivenment’.

Collapse-acceptance is not capitulation and ‘more-than-me enlivenment’ is not wishful or naive hopium, it’s what happens when we consciously attend to our distress, the reality of our predicament, reassess what matters, and take any small or large actions for the best.

Every person I coach is unique, highly informed, and capable of great wisdom. We cannot solve the planetary crisis, but we can learn to participate with greater compassion, soul, creativity and purpose – towards better outcomes than will otherwise occur. But first we have to attend to our fear, grief, anger and outrage, because that is where we will find the insight, motivation and calling to come alive and meet what is coming.

As a coach I will never tell you what to think or what to do, if you invite me into your world, your viewpoint, your dilemmas I will accompany you in ways that invite your own higher knowing, your best self and your adaptive wisdom.

My coaching is affordable, tailored to you, and I do a lot of stuff for free in the DA network. The first step is to have a free, coaching-style conversation where you can get a sense of me, and I can get a sense of how deep adaptation coaching can be of service. I’m not ‘salesy’ and there’s no obligation to continue, in fact I recommend a cooling-off period to decide if further coaching with me is the right fit for you.  Message me to find out more or have a chat.

What is ‘more than me enlivenment’?

  • Acceptance – Deeper alignment with what is, the reality of our predicament
  • Resistance – The courage to change the things that we can 
  • Understanding  – Making better sense of it all with those around us
  • Purpose – Becoming more physically and materially adaptive and resilient 
  • Compassion – Love as a beacon to show the way through, together
  • Presence – Connecting with the unbroken, nature, spirit, and all that I am 

Testimonials

“Before we started I was afraid of taking the lid off a pent-up backlog of grief and fear, but that turned out not to be such a problem – the fact of just sharing and mutual understanding, of listening and being heard, lifted a lot of the burden and the loneliness. You helped me to see, hear and feel the beauty in the more than human life continuing irrepressibly around us. The spontaneous feeling from this was really one of gratitude to Life, to counterbalance the pain and grief which are still part of, but now not the whole, picture.”

N.Z Oct 2023

“Matthew does a lot more than deeply listen, in our work together, he reflects back my meanderings in a way that makes me feel like I actually made sense! His questions always take me to where I need to go and his sensitivity and awareness of the slightest possible discomfort I may experience make the space he holds feel particularly safe”

A.Y Feb 2023

“While I’m familiar with the elements as healing powers, your capacity to sense and respond with a model of collapse as natural is brilliant. And with the help of the elements it has brought me clarity of mind for inspired action. ”

C.B July 2020

“Working with Matthew during our coaching session was a transformational experience. I got to really hear what my body needed and wanted from me, as opposed to what my mind and thoughts continually tell me, about who l am supposed to be and what l should be doing. Thank you Matthew”

E.M.G July 2020

“Matt has encouraged me to listen to and trust my own wisdom, and to create a vision for the way I’d like to live my life. He’s helped me to uncover buried hopes and to sow the seeds for my ‘dream life garden’, both metaphorical and real! The vision means moving house, changing my work, letting go of decades of social conditioning and learning to fly my kite high again. During our sessions, I can go through all emotional seasons as we uncover and explore. But Matt creates an infinite space to do this, allowing anything that comes up. He has an almost preternatural gift for pinpointing and framing the issues and feelings that bring me the most pain and the greatest hope. And then supporting me to understand how I might accept these feelings, find some peace and continue to act towards the Vision. His way of encouraging me to connect in to the natural world and outwards to the people I share it with, always referencing our beautiful planet and the challenges we all face, really works for me. And put simply, Matt is just a wonderful human being. Thank you.”

E.I. July 2020.

 


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